Wednesday, October 6, 2010

Focus on Encouragement

We have all found ourselves at least at one point feeling beyond frustrated that a case has not moved forward, not moved fast enough or worse, that not enough was being done to bring a missing child home.

As many of us have worked in several different groups and teams, no doubt many of you have encountered in-fighting and internal strife amongst our volunteer groups. It seems odd that we would result to turning on each other when we have all come together in this common cause. However, it's only natural that people working together under high stress situations would occasionally lash out at each other in response to this pressure and stress that the anxiety brings. It's important to remember that this is normal and we must recognize it for what it is.

We must make every effort to control our frustration and channel that energy into something productive, thinking of new and innovative ways to help in the search for missing children. What can we do that we have not tried? Who might know something that we had not previously considered? We must constantly keep our focus on the child. It is very easy to become angry about the fact that the child is missing, endangered, and a positive outcome much less a resolution of any kind is not guaranteed. As human beings, we do not like such things to be out of our control. Yet so many times this is the case with missing children. Consequently, when we have some control over the situation, i.e. we are leading a team at the direction of investigators or we have begun our own search team and are preparing tasks for others, we have the tendency to grab all the control we possibly can. This gives us a sense of security and comfort about the direction the case is going in. However, our ascertiveness can be seen by others as aggressive, overbearing behavior that can lead to volunteers feeling less important and not appreciated for all they do and the ideas they have to contribute.

We must remember that all of us are here to help the children and we ALL have something to offer. Encourage the sharing of new ideas and reach out to each other for input. Do not simply pass out tasks with a mere "thanks" and then lend a deaf ear when someone is trying to make a new suggestion. It is counterproductive and quite frankly, it is bad business. The old phrase "you will draw more flies with honey than with vinegar" has been time tested because it is TRUE. Anyone can bark out orders and push paper. A real leader will encourage her team to reach the goals she has set for them and inspire them to reach the goals they set for themselves. This will lead to more volunteers coming on-board, more of them staying on-board, and more children being found. More happy endings, that is why we are all here.

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